The Difference Between Seeking Divine Love and Human Love

Someone asked whether seeking divine love is better than seeking human love. Here was my response. Although this is a simplistic explanation, there is a hormone of “connection” called oxytocin. When we are in love, we are, in part, high on oxytocin. Those of us who have nursed babies can remember the oxytocin high that comes with being so in love with and connected to our infants. New mothers are “drowning” in oxytocin. The moment of sexual union has a lot of oxytocin involved. Other hormones involved in this are endorphins. Research has shown that being held by their mother (but only their mother) causes babies to release a lot of endorphins. They are the hormones, the inner opiods, of pleasure. So….connection with spirit causes us to release both oxytocin and endorphins. In other words, it causes us to feel incredibly good. Being in love, ditto. However, the idea in Inner Bonding is to have our own way to get the oxytocin and endorphins, by connecting with spirit and by being that loving parent for our own inner child. Not having anyone to share all of this good stuff with is lonely, not as lonely as not having access to it at all by a lot for sure, but lonely. So we express this as human love and sharing this with someone who can create a positive feedback loop with us, as a young nursing baby automatically does, as someone who is generating their own hormones of connection does, takes it to the highest possibly intensity. When we connect to someone else to get this from them, the vibration is much lower and it fizzles out.

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The Connection Between the Energy of Love and the Sun

One thing that may make it difficult to access the energy of love is beliefs about the nature of it. Often, we believe that is conditional, but also we often believe that it is “hard” to access. So I am going to pose a series of hypothetical, silly-sounding questions about the sun. You will quickly see where I am going with this.

Do you believe that the light of the sun exists?
Do you believe that you have to do anything to cause it to exist?
If you are in a dark room and cannot see the sun, do you believe that the sun ceases to exist?
Do you believe that the sun exists for some people but not others?
Do you believe that the sun itself shines less if it is a cloudy day?

The energy of divine love, our source, behaves just like the sun. It simply EXISTS, whether you are aware of it or not, whether you believe in it or not. It is perfectly possibly to wall yourself off in a dark room and block it out – but it is still always out there, waiting for you. Indeed, since the walls and even the clouds that block this energy are of our own making, this energy, unlike the real sun, is available to us 24/7.

What if you knew this? What if you knew that this love, this divine energy, was freely and infinitely available, was just like sunlight, and that you did not need to do anything to make it exist? Would that knock down the first wall that keeps it out?

We are conceived and most of us are born taking the existence of this energy of love for granted. We carry this inside us. It is devastating for us when we find ourselves in a world of parents and others who cannot see it because they have already locked themselves into dark rooms. It is heartbreakingly painful for us to be sucked down into the darkness.

As we heal and create our inner loving adults, we again open to what we once took for granted. Gradually, we rescue our wounded little ones from the dark rooms of their false beliefs and show them that the energy of love was always there, both inside and outside of them

So perhaps you can consider this possibility when you are trying to access spirit. What if the energy of love worked just like the light of a sun that is always there without your having to do anything? You don’t earn it. You cannot lose your right to it. Could you imagine yourself out in the sun, soaking up the warm rays and then just make a slight shift and imagine that these are the rays of divine love? I would love to know how that goes for you.

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