Information as a Gift

When I came to Inner Bonding, I knew that my life was not working at all and that I was, somehow, not doing it right. My first intensive was horribly painful because it felt like everything I tried to do in my desperate attempt to do it right, got criticized. Still, I wanted to know, more than anything, I wanted to know what it was that I was doing wrong. Subsequent intensives brought be up against the same issues, but it never as hard as that first time. As I have continued in the Inner Bonding process, I have experienced, over and over again, that any information I get about how I am not taking care of my little girl/myself, about how I am making being okay about other people, how I am trying to control, etc, etc, even if at first it was painful to hear, only resulted in my life getting better. Now I don’t feel any shame about doing something from my ego/wounded self, but if being told about it and it triggers me, then, good, I have even more to work with and, again, my life gets better. So this information is always a gift for me. Nothing anyone can say can shake my deep sense of being okay, safe and loved but it can give me something cool to work with and life gets even better. How wonderful is that! I have total compassion for myself and for the people whom I help. They are not bad or wrong but if they want me to help them, they may not have to suffer so much due to how they are treating themselves, and that feels like a grace to me.

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The Reader

I just saw “The Reader” tonight. It is a stunning, near-perfect movie and Kate Winslet will totally deserved an Oscar for her performance. It is a movie about moral ambiguity and also about the terrible consequences of secrets and shame and emptiness. At the same time that the characters cannot be honest, the actors are completely so. The cinematography is perfect as well. If you love films, this one is a must!

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